part 2....
you see, just the way we keep looking for the missing 20% from other people that is the same way we treat our very own lives. i tend to think that in life we have 80% but we look at the missing 20% magnify it till it looks as big as the 80%. we spend much of life seeing that which we do not have, that which we cannot do, that which we cannot have or that which we cannot be.we always look at another persons life and wish we had something they have, it could be a spouse, a talent, a car or a physical feature(even the most weird things apply here)
the point is quite simple here, everyone is better than you and worse than you depends which side you want to look at it from(remember the analogy of the coin?).i'm human and believe me i also look at people and think "dang human...can you get more lucky than that?" but then i stop and think again "he/she is probably thinking the same exact thing about something i have that they dont have..." that right there is a consoling thought.
i have come to learn a lesson in life,that life is too damn good to waste thinking about all other negative things. we all have a choice whether to celebrate the 80% we do have or keep chasing the elusive 20% we do not have and probabaly never will have.we can live in the fantasy of thinking what life would be like if we had the 20% or choose to live up the fantastic reality of the 80% we do have.
i cheat you not life is so much better celebrating the 80% we have.the more we see it the more we appreciate it and realise just how much we have.when we look at the 80% we start living a first class life of our own, we start being a first version of ourselves, we look at ourselves with larger eyes than before. when we concentrate on the 20% we will never be as good as 'they' are and we will remain encapsulated in the mediocre thinking of being second to others.
i choose to see what i have as the absolute first rate of its version, the very best life has got to offer.who i am is also an obvious first class version and those around me are the same.whats the point of feeling second to someone when they are second to you in another way?why waste precious life counting misery coins when i can count heavy dollars?
be the best, feel the best, live the best.see yourself and what you have because its truly first class!!!
PS:-if anyone thinks your nuts for loving the 80% you have...it does not matter they will probably waste their time thinking that for a very long time...
Friday, March 5, 2010
Thursday, March 4, 2010
FLYING A FIRST CLASS LIFE...(Part 1.)
many of us live less than the first class life we were meant to have mainly because we stop to look at what we do not have. Here is the extract with a greater influence from the movie “WHY DID I GET MARRIED,” by Tyler Perry. it may be about marriage but really is this not how we look at our own lives and hence become unhappy?
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“Somewhere along the way, you'll find a woman or a man who will be more charming or sensitive, more alluring, more thoughtful, richer, have greater appeal, and you will find a woman or man who will need you and pursue you and go all over you more than your spouse ever did. Because no girlfriend/wife or boyfriend/husband is perfect. Because a spouse will only have 80% of what you're looking for. So adultery takes place when a guy or gal looks for the missing 20%.
Let's say your girlfriend/wife is gloomy\moody by nature. You may find yourself drawn to the pretty young thing that has a cherry laugh no matter what she says: "I broke my arm yesterday, Hahahaha."
Or because your girlfriend/wife is a homebody in slippers and pyjamas, smelling of garlic and fish oil, you may fall for a fresh-smelling young sales representative that visits your office in a sharp black blazer, high heels, and a red pencil-cut skirt
Or because your boyfriend/husband is the quiet type, your heart may skip a beat when you meet an old college flame who has the makings of a talk show host.
But wait! That's only 20% of what you don't have. Don't throw away the 80% that you already have!
That's not all. Add to your spouse's 80% the 100% that represents all the months/years that you have been with each other; The storms you have weathered together; The unforgettable moments of sadness and joy as a couple; the many adjustments you have made to love the other; the wealth of memories that you've accumulated as lovers.
Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have. But faithfulness happens when you start thanking God for what you already gave.....
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thats part one for you, look out for part 2 as i take this to the level of our basic daily life ....
Monday, February 22, 2010
SURVIVORS AND FIGHTERS...
in this world there are different kinds of people who make it through life. there are survivors and fighters. they both have incredible strength and make it through life using different techniques and methods. every one of us is either a survivor or a fighter.in every situation in life we respond as either fighters or survivors.
survivors are those people with thick skin, they can wade through any situation in life..they survive it. they dont really do anything they just know how to stick it through most things. these are the guys who go through the toughest things in life silently and strongly. survivors really just have the strength to sit it out through life.they are also the most intelligent of people as they sit and wait for calmness to come before they jump out. as they sit they also come up with great ideas of what to do next.
on the other hand fighters are amazing people. you will rarely find them sitted and waiting for a situation to happen. they survive it and fight through it. they always want to work things out, never hope for the best but instead work for the best. they move through whatevr situation they get into at whatever time, never will you find them 'sticking it through'. they carry the immense strength to not only survive situations but to work through.they will always find a way through life no matter what. they get tired at times but so loong as they have fought a good fight they are safely in place.
i dont know where you mostly operate but i will tell you for sure there is are two people who have shown me that being a fighter in life is more often than not the better options. if things dont work out for you, you will make them work, if people dont see you, you will make them see you, if life beats you, you will beat it. above all this, if you dont know what to do , you will find whatever you need to do!!
dont just survive life, that way you you will never have a story to tell, yout life wont have a significant edge but when you fight through it, you have wars to tell of, conquests to be credited with, strength to be admired and an experience of life to be desired.
when doctors say he/she is ' fighting for his/her life' they mean it in a more real way than we think...
survivors are those people with thick skin, they can wade through any situation in life..they survive it. they dont really do anything they just know how to stick it through most things. these are the guys who go through the toughest things in life silently and strongly. survivors really just have the strength to sit it out through life.they are also the most intelligent of people as they sit and wait for calmness to come before they jump out. as they sit they also come up with great ideas of what to do next.
on the other hand fighters are amazing people. you will rarely find them sitted and waiting for a situation to happen. they survive it and fight through it. they always want to work things out, never hope for the best but instead work for the best. they move through whatevr situation they get into at whatever time, never will you find them 'sticking it through'. they carry the immense strength to not only survive situations but to work through.they will always find a way through life no matter what. they get tired at times but so loong as they have fought a good fight they are safely in place.
i dont know where you mostly operate but i will tell you for sure there is are two people who have shown me that being a fighter in life is more often than not the better options. if things dont work out for you, you will make them work, if people dont see you, you will make them see you, if life beats you, you will beat it. above all this, if you dont know what to do , you will find whatever you need to do!!
dont just survive life, that way you you will never have a story to tell, yout life wont have a significant edge but when you fight through it, you have wars to tell of, conquests to be credited with, strength to be admired and an experience of life to be desired.
when doctors say he/she is ' fighting for his/her life' they mean it in a more real way than we think...
Wednesday, February 17, 2010
LIKE A COIN IS LIFE TO US ......
you see our lives are much like coins depending on how we look at it. in every situation or position we are at in life there are always two sides to the matter(i am assuming this is common knowledge to everyone). anyway, a few weeks ago discovered there is even more similarity between our lives and a two sided coin.
as i write this imagine with me (hopefully you will see my point at the end of this)
the coin has two sides, the heads and the tails. our lives also have two sides, the good(i take it to be the heads) and the bad( i take it to be the tails).the architecture of the coin and that of our lives seems to be more or less the same thing. in difficult situations we tend never to want to see anything positive about it,we never want to see anything good come from it.on the other hand in good situations we always see the good in it never really the ugly side.in most cases when you give someone a foreign coin the first thing they loo at is, who's face is on it, the flipside of the coin comes much later. to make matters even more humorous, they take to discussing the guy on the coin.even worse is that more often than not the guy on the coin is just another bad politician eho hasn't done his work.that's the thing about the good stuff in life,its so easy and the value attached is not so much just like the politicians face.
come to the bad side of life, isn't it funny that the value of the coin is written in the tails side(the lower side of life).should people take to discussing the tails they would discuss how many things they could achieve/buy with the value of the coin?how many assets they could gain from it?
its pretty simple to me just like the coin our strength and utmost value comes from the things that we've been through,the tough experiences we have had.it is from those situations that we develop ourselves. yes life may be tough but its value is actually on the tough side not the good side.just the way the value of the coin is on the tails side so is the value of our lives on the rough side. just the way the heads of the coin comes loaded with troubles of the politicians so is the good side of our lives more often than not.
to have it good, we must have problems. to have it rough we must have value from it...
as i write this imagine with me (hopefully you will see my point at the end of this)
the coin has two sides, the heads and the tails. our lives also have two sides, the good(i take it to be the heads) and the bad( i take it to be the tails).the architecture of the coin and that of our lives seems to be more or less the same thing. in difficult situations we tend never to want to see anything positive about it,we never want to see anything good come from it.on the other hand in good situations we always see the good in it never really the ugly side.in most cases when you give someone a foreign coin the first thing they loo at is, who's face is on it, the flipside of the coin comes much later. to make matters even more humorous, they take to discussing the guy on the coin.even worse is that more often than not the guy on the coin is just another bad politician eho hasn't done his work.that's the thing about the good stuff in life,its so easy and the value attached is not so much just like the politicians face.
come to the bad side of life, isn't it funny that the value of the coin is written in the tails side(the lower side of life).should people take to discussing the tails they would discuss how many things they could achieve/buy with the value of the coin?how many assets they could gain from it?
its pretty simple to me just like the coin our strength and utmost value comes from the things that we've been through,the tough experiences we have had.it is from those situations that we develop ourselves. yes life may be tough but its value is actually on the tough side not the good side.just the way the value of the coin is on the tails side so is the value of our lives on the rough side. just the way the heads of the coin comes loaded with troubles of the politicians so is the good side of our lives more often than not.
to have it good, we must have problems. to have it rough we must have value from it...
Sunday, February 14, 2010
NOT PERFECT TIME..JUST IN TIME....
i must say i am one of those people who have at some point toyed with the idea of perfect time, truth is-it doesnt exist.(never mind i still try to build the concept anyway). as human being we were built with a certain kind of ideology of fear.we want to do something but the time never seems to be right. some of us are even plagued with the idea of "a sign will come".basically we kid ourselves day in day out about having the perfect time to do something with the perfect atmosphere. i am actually here to burst that bubble.
lets face it, timing just gets worse,we get more excuses to pile on and more reasons as to why not.in reality the perfect time is when we actually have no choice, when we have reached the point of its either now or never.in usual life the perfect time never arrives it is more or less forced on us by circumstances and situations.
there is something each of us wants to do wants to pursue or to achieve. tommorow never comes,tommorow will be too late. dont wait for circumstances to be right, for them to work out for you, or for things to fall into place. to get the most out of life you need totake what you have and do what you can with it. life is never in the future or in the past,it is in seizing the moment, the here and now. it is in living as best as you can in the now.
the opportunity that presents itself as life is to be lived for today. for you to be of any significance in this world then you must grasp the concept of here and now. you must learn to be daring enough to do that which you have been wishing to do today. you dont need to start off and be the best at it, just set the ball rolling and it will come to be what you wanted it to be.i will give my example, this blog was started on one weary afternoon when i knew ireally wanted to put my writing somewhere. i did not know how it would end up,whether it would be a success or not,whether i would keep writing and many more things i asked myself. never the less, i wrote, i am still writing, i am still rolling the ball with the same questions in my head, the same fears in my heart. the difference is, i become stronger each time,the logic flows more and the writing seems to be more easier.
join me in yet another one of my journeys in life as we do that which we desire not tommorow, not in the future, not in perfect time...just today, just in time...
lets face it, timing just gets worse,we get more excuses to pile on and more reasons as to why not.in reality the perfect time is when we actually have no choice, when we have reached the point of its either now or never.in usual life the perfect time never arrives it is more or less forced on us by circumstances and situations.
there is something each of us wants to do wants to pursue or to achieve. tommorow never comes,tommorow will be too late. dont wait for circumstances to be right, for them to work out for you, or for things to fall into place. to get the most out of life you need totake what you have and do what you can with it. life is never in the future or in the past,it is in seizing the moment, the here and now. it is in living as best as you can in the now.
the opportunity that presents itself as life is to be lived for today. for you to be of any significance in this world then you must grasp the concept of here and now. you must learn to be daring enough to do that which you have been wishing to do today. you dont need to start off and be the best at it, just set the ball rolling and it will come to be what you wanted it to be.i will give my example, this blog was started on one weary afternoon when i knew ireally wanted to put my writing somewhere. i did not know how it would end up,whether it would be a success or not,whether i would keep writing and many more things i asked myself. never the less, i wrote, i am still writing, i am still rolling the ball with the same questions in my head, the same fears in my heart. the difference is, i become stronger each time,the logic flows more and the writing seems to be more easier.
join me in yet another one of my journeys in life as we do that which we desire not tommorow, not in the future, not in perfect time...just today, just in time...
Thursday, February 11, 2010
YEARS OF LIFE OR LIFE OF YEARS?
i recently discovered or better said, learned that it is not the years of your life that matter but the life of your years that matter. many are the times we spend days trying to search for something meaningfull in life, trying to make our life have meaning, trying to go to bed feeling like we have accomplished something. the amazing thing is how hard we look in the wrong places, how much we sweat tilling the wrong ground and how much we endure for the wrong reasons.you see, i really think life is simple yet our human talent is to complicate it....
i long for the day i will wake up and not worry about my looks,but the day i'll sleep contented that av made someone feel more beautifull.
i long for the day i will no longer worry about my significance in this life, but i will sleep having made someone know they are important to me.
i long for the day i will not wake up in a hurry to achieve this and that,but the day i will sleep having achieved the nobility of being a blessing to the next human being.
i long for the day i will wake up and not worry if the spotlight is on me, but the day i will sleep haveing given the spotlight to the most humble deserving person.
i long for the day i will wake up and face the day with the optimism of doing something good for more than the usual one or no person.
i long for the day i will understand the meaning of life is in cultivating someone else in what you have within you.
i long for the day my mind shall be freed from this man eat man society mentality that leaves me brutally insignificant.
i long for that day when life will mean more than just the normal,when life will manifest its true blessing .
i long for the day i will start a movement of people who want to give life meaning and not wait to find meaning to life.
i am on a journey, a short journey, a tiresome journey where each step ahead is further from the one behind.my destination is simple....to give life to my years.
come with me, tread with me, join me in this life. laugh with me and add life to your years. come and let us search for the gems of life so that we may die and smile from our graves and when we meet the good lord we will thank him for the awesome gift of life for we trully enjoyed the meaning.come with me....
i long for the day i will wake up and not worry about my looks,but the day i'll sleep contented that av made someone feel more beautifull.
i long for the day i will no longer worry about my significance in this life, but i will sleep having made someone know they are important to me.
i long for the day i will not wake up in a hurry to achieve this and that,but the day i will sleep having achieved the nobility of being a blessing to the next human being.
i long for the day i will wake up and not worry if the spotlight is on me, but the day i will sleep haveing given the spotlight to the most humble deserving person.
i long for the day i will wake up and face the day with the optimism of doing something good for more than the usual one or no person.
i long for the day i will understand the meaning of life is in cultivating someone else in what you have within you.
i long for the day my mind shall be freed from this man eat man society mentality that leaves me brutally insignificant.
i long for that day when life will mean more than just the normal,when life will manifest its true blessing .
i long for the day i will start a movement of people who want to give life meaning and not wait to find meaning to life.
i am on a journey, a short journey, a tiresome journey where each step ahead is further from the one behind.my destination is simple....to give life to my years.
come with me, tread with me, join me in this life. laugh with me and add life to your years. come and let us search for the gems of life so that we may die and smile from our graves and when we meet the good lord we will thank him for the awesome gift of life for we trully enjoyed the meaning.come with me....
Thursday, January 21, 2010
THE PHOENIX AND US....
Lately i have discovered the striking relevance of the life of a phoenix to that of our own.you see in life we go through many things hat put us down,brak our spirit,put us in anguish and kill our hope. At times we get so weary of the things wego through such that we start to drift through life instead of living it to the fullest. we keep taking ourselves back to what happened and we never let go of things.
life is never in the past, it is here now and in the uture. we can learn an important lesson from ou see, after the phoenix has lived life for a number of years and its body has undergone the tough life and it becomes weak, the phoenix burns itself and rises from its ashes after which it continues to live longer in a much stringer way. it keeps doing this for it to keep living otherwise it dies.
in much the same way, we should live life letting go of the things that hurt us,those that deny us life. We should 'burn' them like the phoenix does to itself so that we may live life as it should be lived.
we need to walk with our shoulders raised, our spirits high, our smiles beaming with abundance. we need to grasp the fullness of the moment lest we wake up one day and realize just how much of life we have wasted, we need to get up and keep going whenever we fall down. When life seems to get the better of us, when it seems to outlive us, lets 'burn' the ashes and rejuvenate from it.Lets build from the things that attempt to break us,the things that want to kill us,for it is those things that a man overcomes that maake him great.
Things will come and bring us down but like the phoenix, lets rise and livefrom our ahes so that we may enjoy life and become greate. Never stay down.....
life is never in the past, it is here now and in the uture. we can learn an important lesson from ou see, after the phoenix has lived life for a number of years and its body has undergone the tough life and it becomes weak, the phoenix burns itself and rises from its ashes after which it continues to live longer in a much stringer way. it keeps doing this for it to keep living otherwise it dies.
in much the same way, we should live life letting go of the things that hurt us,those that deny us life. We should 'burn' them like the phoenix does to itself so that we may live life as it should be lived.
we need to walk with our shoulders raised, our spirits high, our smiles beaming with abundance. we need to grasp the fullness of the moment lest we wake up one day and realize just how much of life we have wasted, we need to get up and keep going whenever we fall down. When life seems to get the better of us, when it seems to outlive us, lets 'burn' the ashes and rejuvenate from it.Lets build from the things that attempt to break us,the things that want to kill us,for it is those things that a man overcomes that maake him great.
Things will come and bring us down but like the phoenix, lets rise and livefrom our ahes so that we may enjoy life and become greate. Never stay down.....
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